I know the title may sound confusing because it is the opposite of what is recommended. While it is said one must live in the present and not worry about the future, and forget the past, I beg to differ. Your past is what brings you to your present and present leads to the future.
Sometimes it is necessarily to live in the now and enjoy the moment; however, I would never recommend making irrational decisions that might have drastic consequences. Our past can haunt us in ways that we may not even deem possible.
We might sit in peace thinking ‘Oh! The past is over…time for me to focus on the present’ and BAM…little Ghosts from the past return to haunt you when least expected…when the repercussions can be horrifying, when your life depends on it, that’s when we realize how important the past is because it can’t be separated from our present. Yes, be impulsive, go nuts but be wise and be ready.
So, then what is the point? Should we just never move on?
That is not the point at all, in fact, if you want to truly move on, you need to face your past. Face your demons, do not just bury them and pretend it never happened.
Forgetting your past is not going to help you move on.
Our life is a series of events. These events can be categorized into three categories:
1. Past Events
2. Present Events
3. Future Events
Today’s present is going to be tomorrow’s past. I am not trying to sound mega deep here but it is what it is. Every decision we make today is going to impact our lives tomorrow and the years to come.
How to Deal with a Horrifying Past and Achieve Peace of Mind with it?
It is a known fact that when someone tries to forget a memory, it can have traumatic effects on his or her mental health. It is not good for peace of mind. It can scar a person for life, which is ironic because that is exactly what one tries to escape by forgetting a past memory. Therapists never suggest that it is okay that you cannot remember what happened in 1997.
On the contrary, they will try to use different techniques to get you to remember what it is you have blocked out. Hypnosis is a popular technique that is used to make a person remember a forgotten memory. This is not done to make you feel worse about your life, it is a step to find out what is leading to the chaos in your mind. You can never treat an ailment without a diagnosis.
Hence proven, if you want to move on from your past, come to terms with it, face it. Only then can you ever achieve mental peace.
Nobody said you are not allowed to make mistakes. True life lessons, or at least the ones worth having, are from the mistakes you make. You will not learn much if you never make any mistake. You know why? It means you are not doing much; it means you are not taking any risk.
The mistakes you make are like a treasure map, it paves the path to enlightenment. It would be silly to forget them. That is how you will learn and grow and become the wise, beautiful, classy person you are meant to be!
3. Never, ever be embarrassed of your Past:
Embrace it, it is not embarrassing that you have lived. It is beautiful, life is beautiful, your past, as scary as it was, it is yours to remember. It is going to make you who you are going to be. It is going to be a part of your life. Once you have embraced it, it will bring you mental peace like no other.
Yes, past can be a strange place to visit, but there is no stronger emotion than nostalgia. It can make you smile, cry, it can make you angry and feeling emotions is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength, it is a sign of life, a sign of humanity, and nothing is more beautiful than humanity.
Remember your past, face it, accept it, embrace it and you will come out a strong, more powerful person. More enlightened, and insightful. It will bring you peace of mind, facing the stressors is not going to cause you more stress and anxiety, on the contrary, it shall make you mentally strong, and what comes with mental strength? Say it with me – Peace of Mind.
What is peace of mind? It is that calmness, the lack of chaos within us. It is just what is, PEACE. Just like our bodies require rest, our minds need rest as well. Rest is not just about a full night sleep. It is not just about getting 8 to 9 hours of continuous sleep that will provide you with peace of mind. Yes, sleep is essential to proper functioning of a human being, but what about mental health? What about other areas of our lives that also require rest? Focusing on these areas is also crucial to peace of mind and it helps us fight those sudden jolts of stress and anxiety.
I got inspired to write about this through a post by TheShineApp on Instagram.
What are these 7 Areas that we need to focus on to achieve peace of mind? Let’s find out
1. Physical Rest for Peace of Mind
Sleep is a form of physical rest, but here I am referring to rest from aggressive physical activity. Exercise and staying active, going for a walk, these are all important, and should not be ignored but there needs to be a balanced approach to life. Too much of anything is not good, yes even ice-cream. Again, that Danny Tanner taught me a lot as a Full House obsessed child.
The point is, if you spend an hour or two everyday working out, spend some time giving your body a rest. What is the exercise to rest ratio? There is no hard and fast rule here that needs to be followed. The best advice I can give is, listen to your body. If your body feels pain, do not push it. If your body is sore from too much cardio, lie down. If you had a rigorous training session today, take it slow tomorrow. Take a walk instead of running on that treadmill.
Maybe skip that heavy weightlifting, go for a calming swim instead, or just float, nothing is more calming than that. You get the picture, keep that unnecessary stress and anxiety away by listening to your body, and you will know what it needs. Spend a few hours at the spa, get a pedicure, a relaxing massage, lay down on a recliner and read a book, or sip on some chicken soup. Taking care of yourself and giving your body some rest is necessary for peace of mind.
Along with physical rest, our senses need rest too. Our sense organs are overworked. We are constantly using our eyes, our tongue, our ears, our noses, and our skin. These are things that we take for granted, we do not even realize it because it is just so normal.
Right now, me typing this blog post, I am using all my sense organs without even thinking about it. My fingers are touching the keyboard, my eyes are looking at the screen, my ears can hear a cooking video on YouTube, my mom is watching, and my ears have no choice but to hear it.
Also, my ears hear my typing, which is louder now that I am aware of my senses more than ever. The things you can achieve if you start focusing! My nose is on an overdrive as well, I can smell dinner, which is making me hungry, so the only sense organ that is currently not being used by me – My tongue is also about to get to work.
The whole point of that tangent is that our senses need a rest, just as much as our bodies do. Close your eyes every now and then, lay down alone in peace, and just do nothing. It is not as easy as it sounds, because the society has taught us that hustle is the only correct way of life.
Therefore, it is so important to talk about the importance of rest. It is crucial for peace of mind. It is crucial to keep the stress and anxiety away. Shut down your gadgets, step into a comfortable, dark room, away from noise and just be.
3. Spiritual Rest for Peace of Mind
Rest your mind and focus on your spirit every now and then, meditation helps, reading scriptures helps, connect with your spirit by mindful breathing exercises. Spending some time in nature also allows you to connect with yourself and explore your true spirit.
Praying helps a lot of people feel calmer and more connected with the universe. Regardless of your faith and whether you are a believer or not, praying has been proven to have a wonderful effect on the mental health. Just knowing that there is a presence looking out for you is assuring and helps people put their minds at ease, in other words it leaves room for spiritual rest.
Just like everything else, there is a limit to creativity, the right side of your brain is what is utilized when you are being creative. It is incredible and fun to be creative and just create art, music, ideas but just like your body, your brain needs to rest as well. Do not always feel the need to create or be productive.
It is perfectly okay; in fact it is imperative that you give yourself some time-out from creating and instead spend some time enjoying somebody else’ creation. Enjoy creativity by giving your creativity a rest and read a book created by someone else, enjoy music composed by someone else, or simply watch a show and enjoy somebody else’ vision come to life on screen.
A little Netflix will not hurt anybody. Creative rest is also required for true peace of mind. The pressure to create can also cause stress and anxiety. Rest up.
5. Mental Rest for Peace of Mind
What this basically means is, stop over thinking, stop over analyzing, stop over planning, stop overwhelming yourself with every single little or meaningful thought that may try to make a home in your mind. It is easier said than done, but the key to peace of mind is awareness that you need some.
Awareness that you can create peace of mind, awareness that there are simple ways in which you can teach yourself to feel less stressed out and face stress and anxiety like a champ.
I have quite a few articles about this, I will link one right HERE, and another one right HERE.
6. Emotional Rest for Peace of Mind
It is sad that we live in a world where it has become normal to not show emotions, it has become “cool” to not feel emotions. Some might even brag about not feeling anything, so NEWS FLASH – It is not good for your mental peace. It is NOT normal, it is not cool, and it is certainly not healthy.
Keeping your emotions all bottled up tightly inside you is not going to bring you any peace of mind. Make a habit of expressing your emotions, without worrying about what others might think. First, nobody will judge you for it, secondly, do it for your inner peace.
Crying is therapeutic, crying is natural, people cry when they are overjoyed, we cry when we are sad, it is a natural response to deep emotions. Let it out! Bawl out like a baby, cry into your pillow if you must, then get right back up and move on with your life. Pent up emotions are going to cause a lot of stress and anxiety, if not instantly then eventually. That song from Frozen comes to mind –
Let it go, let it go, don’t hold back anymore, let it go, let it go, turn away and slam the door
Yes, I improvised the lyrics a little, and maybe do not slam doors, or if you must, be gentle. Yes, anger is a real emotion, and it is okay to express it, just try not to break any walls or doors. More assertive, less aggressive. Journaling is a fantastic way to express your emotions without causing a “scene”, if that is something you are worried about.
7. Social Rest for Peace of Mind
Last but not the least, social rest is essential to mental peace. I cannot stress more on the importance of spending some time alone, every day. Not saying you should turn into a hermit and give up socializing, however, at least an hour by yourself every day is good for your mental health.
It is also necessary to strike a healthy balance, if you are on the other end of the spectrum and barely ever meet anybody, perhaps it is time to do that. Find a happy place and find a healthy balance. Hang out with people, and then hang out in your own company as well.
The key to mental peace is to strike a balance. Too much of anything is not good. Too much of creativity, too much sensory stimulation, too much socializing, too much exercise, or even too much spirituality. If you crave peace of mind, you need rest, your body, mind, soul need rest. It is only through rest that you can rejuvenate and energize enough to start afresh and reach out for your dreams. Want to create your perfect life? Rest Up first! After all, you can’t dream unless you sleep.
7 Stress Relief Activities – Americans Coping with Stress and Anxiety
Seven among ten adults state that they feel stressed out in day to day life, and this stress and anxiety has affected their relationships, work, physical and/or mental health. According to the American Psychological Organization, stress and anxiety are a major concern in the United States.
The stressors might shift a little each year, but they also remain the same. America is one of the most stressed out nations in the world, I am not just saying that there is data to prove this. Yes, the American dream is real, but the fulfillment of that dream does not come easily. What is more concerning is that each year the surveys conducted reveal that the levels of stress and anxiety keep growing.
In the 2019 survey, the increase in mass shootings was the biggest stressor that American adults faced, there is no surprise as to what the biggest stressor is in 2020. You guessed it, it is this year’s Pandemic and the amount of stress, anxiety, uncertainty, and fear that comes with it.
However, the good news is that while there is stress and anxiety, and there is lots of it. There are also several coping mechanisms. There are ways to deal with anxiety, and there are things you can do when you feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Simple things that you can do.
Stress and anxiety are on a rise, but so is education about stress and anxiety. People are more aware, and the awareness amongst people keeps growing each year as well. There is peace in knowing that you are not the only one going through this. There is peace in knowing that there are ways to fight feeling stressed out. There is peace in knowing that there are simply coping mechanisms to deal with stress and anxiety.
According to the American Psychological Association, aka APA, the survey about stress reveals these seven as the most common coping mechanisms practiced by Americans for stress and anxiety.
1. Music for Stress Relief
Surprise! Music to the rescue! It should come as no surprise that the most common out of all stress relief activities, as revealed by the survey is music. Stressed out Americans take to music to fight stress and anxiety. Music is the most fun and simple way you can fight stress and anxiety. You can get lost in the music, it might even be hypnotizing for some, depending on what kind of music for stress relief you pick. Playing music is just as effective as listening to it.
While some people would recommend peaceful, calming, soothing music for stress relief, something soft, melodious, and just sweet to take your mind of things. Some people benefit from hard core rock and roll music for stress relief. I would say listen to whatever works for you. Everybody is different, and it is reasonable to believe that our tastes in music, and what kind of music makes us feel better, also varies from person to person.
Metal music is not exactly the most calming, I would not say it brings you peace of mind, but it might be just what the doctor ordered for your current state of mind. Sometimes, nostalgia works as a great stress relief activity. Just thinking about the good old days, and music takes you back to a different, simpler time like nothing else.
2. Exercise for Stress Relief
The second most common activity for stress relief sighted by Americans is stress relief exercise. Exercise does not mean specifically rigorous weightlifting and cardio. Simply get moving. I would recommend combine 1 and 2 for the best results. Listen to music for stress relief, and combine that with dancing, get up and start moving, no you do not need to be Michael Jackson or Britney Spears for that. Just jump if nothing else. It works, I promise.
Take a walk, step out into nature, as opposed to the treadmill. If it helps thousands of Americans coping with stress and anxiety. They are onto something and it will help you and your loved ones as well.
Swimming is an instant stress relief activity. Something about the work out, combined with the water, the blue of the water, the open sky, indoor pools work just as well too. The bottom line is, standing is always better than sitting, and walking is always better than standing, particularly when it comes to stress relief activities.
3. Praying for Stress Relief
This one might come as a shock to some but praying as one of the stress relief activities was the third most used coping mechanism for stress and anxiety. Sometimes, the situation is out of your control. You cannot fix it, or perhaps you have tried everything you could and now it is out of your control. In this case, praying is the best thing you can do.
You have studied hard and smart for that test, got to the classroom in time, finished your test in time, and now it has been submitted to the examiner to be corrected. You cannot change the answers, you cannot fix that grammatical error, it is out of your control; just pray for the best.
It is pointless to worry about it, I know it is easier said than done, but no harm in trying right. Once you pray, you let it out in the universe, it also acts like a journal, instead of penning down your stress and anxiety in your diary, you are talking to God, it is like therapy, AND it is free. What else can we ask for, right?
The other day I was talking to my friend who is an Agnostic, and he mentioned he prays when he wants something. Does that mean he is a believer? Probably not, but the fact is praying is an effective way to relieve stress. However, it might not be a popular opinion, but it is always nice to believe in things.
4. Yoga for Stress Relief
The fourth most common stress relief activity stated by Americans who participated in the APA survey, was yoga for stress relief. There are hundreds if not thousands of videos that you can find on the internet about stress relief yoga. Just google it or enter yoga for stress relief on YouTube. You are sure to find a ton of different options to choose from.
5. Meditation for Stress Relief
Meditation for stress relief might sound intimidating to many, I have also tried stress relief meditation, I saw an expert who guided me, and I did what he said and tried meditation for stress relief for a couple of months. It did not work because I was not doing it right. I was overthinking it, my thoughts in my head kept getting louder and louder, I was thinking more about when my alarm will go off, and I can carry on with my other activities. That is not how you meditate, and it definitely not how you cope with stress.
However, with a little more time, and effort I realized how simple it really is. All I needed to do was to concentrate on my breathing. Focus on slowing down your breath as you take the air in and let it out. That is all there is to it. Do it for five minutes. Feel your body release stress. It is one of the best stress relief activities in my opinion. Just do not rush it and keep it simple. After all, something that is all about keeping the chaos out, should not have to be complicated.
6. Talking to Someone for Stress Relief
Many Americans understand that emotional support can be crucial to dealing with the stress and anxiety in their lives. Reasons to feel stressed out are many, but so are people in your life. Talk to a friend you rely on, a family member you trust. Your neighbor who has your back, talk to your hair stylist, they are fabulous listeners. The point is Americans seek emotional support as one of the stress relief activities because it truly helps.
If you do not feel comfortable talking to someone you know personally, seek out a counselor. Psychologists, therapists can help you manage stress, it is what they studied for, it is their job, and they are good at it. More and more Americans rely on psychologists for stress relief support, as the percentage increases each year.
Seeing a therapist, or a profession to help relief stress, is becoming more and more acceptable with time. Not just in the United States but worldwide, with increase in awareness about depression, people are now more open to seeking professional help.
7. Smoking for Stress Relief?
There are many stress relief activities that are unhealthy. According to the same survey by APA, many Americans, 14% to be precise, stated smoking as one of their chosen stress relief activities. While this might give some temporary relief, it is not recommended. There are healthy, cheaper, non-cancer-causing alternatives that can and should be used for stress management. Smoking and drinking will do more damage than good in the long run.
The theme here is to focus on something else, get busy, get distracted, get up and dance, go for a walk, put on some music for stress relief and just enjoy the moment. Practicing yoga or mediation are great stress relief activities, talk it out and at the end of the day, just pray. Pray for peace of mind, pray for a better tomorrow, pray for a calm you.
In my previous post I researched and shared the nine most common reasons for stress and anxiety in the United States. Usually the list has the same issues that the world is grappling with – Stress and anxiety related to work, finances, unemployment, people are stressed out because of relationships, health issues, he economy, the future the past; but there is a new entrant into that list; and it has made such an impact with its first appearance that it has taken the spot of all other stressors and left them behind.
The topmost common and concerning reason for stress and anxiety in the United States today is the coronavirus.
Not just the illness but the consequences of the illness. Its impact on the society, its impact on the economy, its impact on employment, everything is related. Isolation is the new norm; people have lost their peace of mind. Peace of mind that we did not even know we had before this bizarreness started.
Face masks, hand sanitizers, lock downs, Govt imposed restrictions that sometimes feel like a curfew – this is the new normal now, globally. It is what the whole world is talking about, these are some very peculiar times, feels like a plot right out of a science fiction movie.
If somebody had told me in 2019 that there would be a virus that would force the world to stay home, and cause so much chaos, insanity, stress and anxiety, a virus that resulted in human beings being terrified of other human beings, I’d tell them to go find their lost marbles.
6 Lessons that I Learned from 2020 and You Should Too
There is a lesson to be learned in everything, life teaches you more when it is not going the way you had planned. But to learn from these stressful situations, you need to open yourself up, open your mind to the lessons that you can take in from every little problem you are faced with.
There are ways to strengthen the body, we go to the gym to strengthen our muscles, we take vitamins to strengthen our system, what about our minds? Our emotional strength? Equally if not more important than anything else. Stress is vital for survival, in small doses it motivates us, in large doses, it can destroy us internally and even kill us. Let’s take the number 1 stressor today and turn it into something positive. Let’s turn this into life lessons:
1. Reduce Stress and Anxiety by Slowing Down
As a believer, I honestly believe nothing happens without reason. Every single event, regardless how little or catastrophic, has been brought to us for a reason. What could the reason be for this crazy quarantine causing virus? It means we need to slow down. We need to spend more time doing the little things in life that bring us peace of mind. We need to calm down!
We are running after success, money, fame, goals constantly, and while it is great to have goals and ambitions. As Danny Tanner very eloquently stated “Too much of anything is not good, yes even ice cream.” There needs to be a balance, we need to slow down physically and mentally.
Feeling stressed out and uncertain about the past, present or future? Smell the flowers, sit out in the backyard and gaze aimlessly at the sky, the shapes of the clouds, listen to some music for peace of mind. Get drenched in the rain, it is a lot of fun, you might catch a cold so do not quote me on that one but yes, it is a fantastic way to destress. Stop running, slow down, take a walk instead.
2. Find Comfort in your Own Company
Finding comfort in your own company is crucial. I see people going crazy all over the world, as if staying at home is the worst thing that could happen to them. What happened to the appeal of “Netflix and Chill”? The whole world seemed to want it, all of us wanted just to have one month of doing nothing. Here it is! We have it! It has been forced on up.
And dare I say, this was the only way we would ever get it – A few weeks of staying home and doing nothing! Is it really that hard to live with yourself? If it is then we need to re-think our lives. There is strength in being OKAY living internally occasionally, without any external stimuli. Imagine not needing anybody to be happy!
This year, almost every nation worldwide was forced to stay home, in fact failing to comply with those orders were an act of crime and punishable by law. Many people all around India were arrested for being seen outside during lockdowns. For many, it was a requirement to go out and work to be able to eat that day. However, for many, it was just an act of rebellion.
There is power in loving your own company. You build your own peace of mind. There is strength in isolation, of course this should not lead to loneliness and agoraphobia; that is a whole other story. But think of it this way, if you are happy in your own company, without needing any body else to entertain you, how amazing would your life be? You meet people, make friends, because you genuinely want to, not because you need to, to get away from yourself.
3. We really need an Internet Quarantine
Technology has consumed us! Literally, need I say more? Could we get through this self-isolation without social media? Without YouTube? without Netflix? Without Tick Tock? Without Video Games? If all of these were also part of the “Stay away from” list, what would we do? I have been wanting to read more, but have I? NO! I do not know a lot of people who are spending this time reading books. I am wondering if we will ever have an internet quarantine.
What would that be like? Imagine a month of no internet, just going out and spending all your time outdoors? reading books? Playing board games? Do not know about you, but I am intrigued! Maybe a month without the internet is just what the doctor ordered. Maybe a month without the internet, will make us see what us is around directly through our eyes, and not through our screens.
Maybe a month without the internet will help us our addiction to it, or at least help many realize that they are addicted to it. Maybe a month without the internet, will reduce stress and anxiety. Think of the 1990s, no cell phones, no computers, no internet, no WhatsApp, Facebook, YouTube. Just our friends, our families, our lives, home picnics, the outdoors. Just thinking about those times brings me peace of mind.
We live in a world where we cannot imagine our lives without the internet, after all, I wont even be able to post this blog post without access to the internet. I will not have a job without the internet, But how about this? How about minimizing the amount of time we mindless scroll down our Instagram? how about minimizing the amount of time we check our messages every day?
How about minimizing the amount of time we spend on watching prank videos on YouTube, how about we spend that time building a hobby? A career? A plan? Coloring? Painting? Learning a new skill? Meeting our neighbors? Catching a movie, a cup of coffee with an old friend? I am already trying to make this change into my life. Let’s do this together!
4. We Cannot Plan Everything – There is Peace in Knowing That
Destiny is real! Weddings have been postponed, graduations have been cancelled, family vacations have been delayed. When we plan events like this, we think about the weather, or we pray for everyone’s health. Never do we EVER prepare for “what if a crazy virus infects the world, and we are asked to cancel the wedding?”. Destiny is just that. It is unpredictable, it is pre-written. It is scary but also there is peace of mind in knowing.
It is calming to realize that we do not have to plan everything because what is meant to be…WILL BE! It helps reduce stress and anxiety to be aware that we cannot and should not try to think of every single event in our lives. Instead of fretting over trying to control every aspect of your life, learn to sit back sometimes, breathe, slowly, and smile knowing that destiny will unfold, regardless of your plans, or you stressing out about it.
5. The Most Basic Need is the Need to Survive
Maslow’s Need Hierarchy is real! Before the Covid19 shook the world at its core, we were obsessing over impeachments, political propaganda, religious warfare, Climate Control, Elections and then, suddenly, the whole world was preoccupied with the need for survival.
Stocking up on groceries and medication and toilet paper became the new norm. All united in this need for survival, fighting the same enemy, united by this strangeness, at least temporarily. Nothing can cause more stress and anxiety than the human and animal need to survive, to live and to live in peace.
6. Never Take Anything for Granted
This crazy year taught me never to take anything for granted. It was the things that we did not even think twice before doing that were taken away from us – Being able to spend time with friends, family, going out for a walk, taking your dogs out for a walk, sharing a cup of coffee or tea with your best friends, inviting your brother or sister over for dinner.
How about, going to sleep without stressing out about waking up with a strange illness? Hugging your parents without fearing for their life. Being able to leave your house without a mask, being able to go to a restaurant and working on your laptop in peace, not overusing the hand sanitizer and feeling your skin stretch and dry out in anguish. Not having to sanitize your groceries before storing everything in the refrigerator.
I do not know about you, but these are things I thought would never change. These are things we do not even feel grateful for, because these are so little, right? These things could never be taken from us? We were never going to not hug our loved ones. However, all these simple, everyday things were impacted this year, and if it can happen once, it can happen again. The thought of meeting strangers on the road caused stress and anxiety this year. Bottom line is, never take anything for granted. You wake up in the morning and breathe? Be grateful!
Let’s all learn from this. Let’s take the lessons we learn from this into the future, the future after quarantine needs to be different. Once this is all over and we continue living exactly the way we lived before, then what was it all for? What was the point of this year? What was the point of corona and quarantine? There is ALWAYS a point, there is always a lesson, there is always a change that needs to be made. Let’s move forward to 2021 with that change in mind.
One in three people say they experienced a lot of stress during the previous day. Stress and anxiety are a major source of concern. Especially with the unexpected virus that shocked the world in the beginning of 2020, the levels of stress and anxiety are off the charts. Even people who had little experience with them have reported to be showing symptoms that are caused by stress and anxiety. These symptoms include headaches, fatigue, and sleeplessness.
Top 10 Most Stressed out Countries in the World
According to Gallup, A global analytics, and advice firm, here is a list of the most stressed out countries in the world:
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Most Common Reasons for Stress and Anxiety in the US:
The United States of America is in the seventh spot for the worlds most stressed out countries. Los Angeles was discovered to be the most stressed out city in the United States, according to the Gallop survey, New York and Chicago are few of the other cities in the United States that were found to have the highest level of stress and anxiety.
What causes this? United States of America, is globally considered to be the land where dreams come true, the American dream, so, why are people living in this dream land so stressed out? Here are the top reasons.
The pandemic is a reality that none of us thought was possible. Millennials and Gen Z-ers alike, had never even imagined a world where hugs became a source of fear, and masks became the norm. The uncertainty caused by the virus, the constant fear or catching the virus, or a loved one catching the virus. The Government’s response to coronavirus all add up to the levels of stress and anxiety in the country.
Of course, it is not a surprise that in country as independent as the United States of America, work is a major source for stress and anxiety. The 2020 poll reveals that the number of people who sighted “work” as a stressor is greater this year, as compared to the previous year. The percentage increased from 64% in 2019 to 70% in 2020, according to apa.org.
The change in work routines, because of coronavirus, the uncertainty of employment, the work from home was appreciated by many people but many were not thrilled with the concept of their homes turning into their offices overnight. A lot of employees faced salary cuts or were apprehensive about the possibility of salary cuts in future. It is no surprise that all these factors contributed to the increase in work related stress and anxiety among Americans.
Just like work, money is a major factor in the rise in stress and anxiety across the country. The two are connected, with unemployment on all-time high, businesses failing to break-even and thousands of people reporting bankruptcy this year, it is a given that meeting necessary financial needs has not been an easy task for many households in this past year.
The coronavirus caused the economy to suffer tremendously, in a way that had not been seen in a long time. Stress and anxiety caused by the major decline in the American economy saw the largest rise. It went from 46% last year, to 70% this year, based on a survey conducted by the American Psychological Association. The American citizens are obviously concerned about the country’s economical status.
Relationships like spouse, kids, siblings, partners, is another major reason for stress and anxiety for Americans. Concern about their safety, wellbeing future. Amidst the pandemic, and changed work routines, with kids studying from home, and couples working from home, divorce rates increased, separation, arguments, leading to stress and anxiety also increased. Peace of mind suffered as couples tried to adjust to their suddenly changed reality.
6. Disrupted Routines
75% of the survey takers in America stated they experienced stress and anxiety because of disrupted routines. Children spent the entire year studying from home. Home schooling became a norm, and this not only affecting the children but also their parents, who had to adjust to the sudden change in routine.
The mornings changed, the night routines changed, the days changed. Suddenly children must be taught, their minds need to be stimulated within the confines of the house. Work from home, though a blessing in disguise for many Americans, was not an easy adjustment, this constant balancing act between taking care of the kids at home, and meeting up with work responsivities has been a cause for the rise in stress and anxiety among many Americans.
7. Housing Costs and other Basic Needs
Another cause of anxiety and stress among Americans is to pay the housing, rents on time. Being able to meet the monthly requirements needed to pay the electricity bills, telephone, bills, other utilities has caused panic and stress across the country in the past, but more so this year.
The obsession with hoarding toilet paper during the beginning few months of the pandemic shows clearly how the uncertainty of the future impacted people. Being able to have access to necessities like food and water caused an uproar and caused a lot of public displays of desperation across the country. Several videos can be found on the internet to prove that. I am sure a lot of those people caught on tape are embarrassed about that now. I could be wrong though.
8. Missing out on Major Milestones
The same survey conducted by the American Psychological Association, also reveals that missing out on major milestones has also resulted in stress and anxiety.
Missing out on graduation ceremonies, Prom, not being able to celebrate your sweet sixteenth birthday or the first birthday of your baby, cancelling weddings, or celebrating virtual weddings, or weddings with a handful of guests as opposed to how you had been planning is a justifiable cause for losing peace of mind.
Not being able to step outside for some fresh air, the fear of stepping out, not being able to meet friends and family, being forced to stay alone in something that is very similar to solitary confinement caused a lot of loneliness, and mental health suffered as a result. Introverts were affected as well, but introverts adjusted to this a lot better than extroverts.
Those used to the gregarious way of life were deeply impacted by the virus inflicted self-isolation. While a lot of people are now used to the recluse way of life, they say it takes an average of 66 days to form a new habit, so it can be assumed that this self-isolation has become an acquired taste for many over the last few months of coronavirus. Habits are not always good, and self-isolation is not one habit that I would recommend. It has and will continue to trigger stress and anxiety in several people of all ages.
People of color have reported a higher degree of stress and anxiety. Black Lives Matter started in the United States, but it has become a global movement. The reason for this is the high level of fear and anger within the African Americans in the country. Anxiety is mainly caused by fear. That is the connection. People of color are more likely than white adults to report stressors in their life, according to the same survey by APA.
Symptoms of Stress and Anxiety
Women have consistently ranked above men when it comes to suffering from stress and anxiety. Over the years several surveys have been conducted to understand the triggers, the reasons, and the impact of stress, and it is a fact that more women experience stress than men.
Sometimes, it might not be obvious that a person is dealing with stress. They might lack the awareness, or perhaps, they are in denial.
Here are some common symptoms of stress and anxiety:
1. Easily angered: Stress and anxiety might make you snappy and easily lose their temper.
2. Nervous: You suddenly become nervous about things that did not affect you like that before.
3. Fatigue: Constantly feeling exhaustion, tired even with little to no physical activity is also a sign of stress and anxiety.
4. Burn out: A survey by Gallop showed burn-out to be a stressor as well. Burn-out is lack of motivationto do the activities that once excited you.
Yes, stress and anxiety has grown over the years, however, one must remember nothing is permanent. If we are facing difficult times today, tomorrow we will see better days. There are a few ways to relieve stress. I have a post about it, click here for that.
The most common ways that Americans say they have successfully managed stress are by listening to music that calms them down, exercising, or just simply going for walk. Watching your favorite movie, or TV shows helps as well. Reading, praying, spending time with loved ones, spending time on forming new hobbies or pursuing old ones is a fantastic way to achieve peace of mind, or reduce stress and anxiety.
Scented Candles for Peace of Mind – Reduce Stress and Anxiety
The popularity of Candles
Candles have come a long way. In ancient times candles were used as a source of light. This was before electricity was even invented. Kerosene and gas lamps were used to light up a place after sunset. Soon candles became more of a trend than a practical necessity. Today, most of the credit for the popularity of candles can be given to YouTubers. If you follow any famous YouTuber, you are sure to find at least one favorite candle in their haul videos.
How do Candles Reduce Stress and Anxiety?
Yes, I do watch a lot of YouTube, but my interest in candles is mainly because of its healing properties. Can candles heal? The short answer is “Yes”, candles have been known to reduce the affects of stress and anxiety, thus bring about peace of mind. It is the oldest and the easiest way to calm the internal chaos.
Candles – There is something calming about that word, or is it just me? Just say the word out loud “Candle”, do you feel it? Originally the word was derived from the Latin word “Candere”, which means to shine, and shine it did.
The low light from the candle is not blinding like the sun, you can stare at it, and get lost in it. There is something meditative about it, something that fills the heart with positivity, something that brings peace of mind. Combining this visual therapy, with aromatherapy is a powerful combination. A combination that can help alleviate stress and anxiety.
Is Burning Candles Bad for You?
Excess of anything is not good. Burning candles can have a lot of benefits, but before I go ahead and talk about some of the other advantages of burning candles, I also want to remind you that candles can be harmful. Some candles, when burned release a toxic gas which can be harmful to the environment, as well as to the people around these toxic compounds that are released in the air because of this burning candle.
Therefore, organic candles have become popular. Candles are fantastic but it is recommended not to burn them all the time. According to housebeautiful.com, the claims that burning candles is harmful are not backed by science or research. Yes, burning candles do emit poisonous, toxic, harmful compounds; however, the amount of these substances produced by burning candles is very minute and will not cause more damage than the damage caused by the air we already breathe. As for scented candles, that have essential oil in them – Essential oils are not harmful, unless you have allergies or you are asthmatic.
So, the bottom line is, as I mentioned before, too much of anything is not good. Burning candles will not cause any damage, but it depends on how long you are burning them. It is not advised to burn candles day and night. The good news is you do not have to feel guilty about burning these candles. Do not lose your peace of mind over this. Burn them when you are feeling stress and anxiety and feel yourself calming down with the glowing flame.
Why do candles make you feel better? Uses of Candles in Daily Life
The slow, soothing burning of a candles, infused with some of the best, most calming essential oils is a great recipe for peace of mind. Both are known to reduce levels of stress and anxiety. I am including some of the best sellers of scented candles from Amazon, if you use any of the links to order, I will make a small commission. Here are some of the top benefits of burning candles.
Psychology of Candles 1 – Can Increase Productivity
Candles are a soothing, easy way to increase your level of productivity. There are certain scents that help with sharpening the mind. Some of these are rosemary, cinnamon, lemon.
Psychology of Candles 2 – Uplift your Mood
Feeling low? Burn a candle, cozy up by the fireplace, and a hot cup of chamomile tea and instantly feel better. Aromatherapy is real, notice how smelling freshly brewed coffee, or cinnamon rolls in the oven can instantly make you feel better? That is the power of aromatherapy. Lemon is known to have a fresh, uplifting aromatic qualities that can light up any dingy room.
Psychology of Candles 3 – Promote Better Sleep
Burning a candlelight instead of the usual lights in your house is a great way to get better sleep. The light from candles is not harmful to your eyes or skin. The light from candles is soothing to the soul. It helps bring peace of mind, reduces stress and anxiety, and helps you sleep better at night.
Psychology of Candles 4 – Reduce stress and Anxiety
That is correct, probably the cheapest way to reduce stress and anxiety in a person is to gift them some scented candles. There is a reason why every self-care routine consists of burning some candles by your bed at night, or taking a warm, soothing bath with some lit up aromatic candles.
Clary sage is a wonderful essential oil, that is known to reduce stress and anxiety in women, by control cortisol. Cortisol is known as the stress hormone that is found in women.
Clary sage, when combined in a candle can thus help with women who are prone to stress and anxiety, by promoting peace of mind. Frankincense is also great for this purpose.
Psychology of Candles 5 – Creates a Relaxing, Calming, Soothing Ambience
Ever wonder why spas everywhere light up all sorts of candles? It is because not only does it promote peace of mind, which is what people seek at a spa, but also it creates a calming, peaceful ambience. A candle can change the energy of a room. The fire from the candle, the light from the candle, the aroma from the candle, brings you closer to your spiritual side, it brings you closer to your positive side, it brings you closer to peace, to warmth, to God.
Peppermint and chamomile are relaxing, the scent can sooth the soul and create a peaceful ambience by doing so. Candles make great gifts as well.
Fall is a favorite season for many, and it is known for many things to begin with. Fall is known for the cool weather, the autumn leaves, the beauty around us, it is the time to bring out the boots, and the cozy socks. It is also the time for candles.
That is the reason I chose this time to pen down this post. I love candles, there is something so feminine, classy, and soothing about candles. So, I set out on a quest to find some of the best Fall candles for the season and decided to share my research with you.
Which is your favorite candle scent? Feel free to share in the comment section below. Warm and Peaceful vibes your way.
Calming Bible Verses – What does the Bible say about Stress and Anxiety
Regardless of your faith, it is a known fact that we all need gentle reminders, encouraging words and a listening ear. When you have a bad day, who do you go to? A loved one, a friend, a family member, they are not all psychologists, but do not you feel a little relaxed, a sense of relief just by ranting about the reason for your stress and anxiety.
They might not solve your problems, but just hearing them say, “I understand” acts like a soothing ice pack on our burns. I am not good with the metaphors, clearly but the point is, Believe in God or not, just reading the scriptures and all the positivity that the words can bring to us is worthy of our time, especially in times of stress and anxiety.
The world is beautiful, and even in dark, gloomy, uncertain times it is absolutely imperative that we stay calm and do not let go of hope, positivity, warmth, peace of mind, and try to remain calm. It is easy to remain calm when everything is going our way. It is easy to show your calm, cool and collected side when the seas are still. However, it is challenging to show the same quality when there are a dozen ripples in the water.
It is in difficult times when we really need to remain calm, not only for our own sanity but for the sake of those around us.
A Calming Aura
Ever notice how some people have a calming aura about them, one look from them and you feel calm, your mind starts calming down. It is because they are in this state of calmness that they exude this calming energy and everybody who comes into their presence can feel this too.
Just like being around ambitious people can help make you feel inspired, our energy acts the same way. Your state of mind is like that – The calmer you feel from within, the calmer you make your environment. It is this internal peace of mind that extends externally and calms everybody else down, when in your presence.
The Importance of Calming Bible Verses
I do not consider myself to be a particularly religious person, but I believe in a lot of things – I believe in karma, I believe in spirits, I believe in Astrology, I believe in God and I believe in scriptures, Be it the Quran or the Bible.
I believe from scriptures we can get answers to all our problems, all our questions are answered, the answers to all our worries, problems, stress, concerns, can be found within the scriptures.
It is like, God has always us covered. I believe in the importance of believing in things, having faith, in magic, faith in destiny.
We as human beings do not have control all the time. Sometimes we lose control because of our internal makeup, and sometimes we lose control because of the external forces.
When staying calm does not come from within, it is best practice to look for inspiration and look towards ways of calming down from the scriptures. There are several calming verses in the Bible.
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Here are Just a Few of the Several Calming Bible Verses
Calming Bible Verse 1: Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart;
and lean not unto thine own understanding
Destiny unfolds in mysterious ways, no matter how much we humans think we have figured everything out, we are still humans. You cannot predict destiny; you cannot understand many things. Maybe you are going through stress and anxiety, maybe it is a difficult time, maybe we are wondering “Why me, why did this happen”, and no matter how insightful you are, you cannot answer all questions.
This calming bible verse reminds us that we do not need to lean into ourselves to understand everything, even our best, most intelligent understanding might fall short. Because only He knows why things happen, only He knows what will happen, so lean onto Him for answers, and accept that everything truly does happen for a reason.
Calming Bible Verse 2: Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation,
by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God.
This passage states the importance of and the power in prayer. This calming Bible verse tells the reader not to feel stressed out about worrisome situations and just sit back and pray to God. Show gratitude for everything that you have and ask for everything that you want and desire.
There is something very calming about leaving it all up to fate. If there is nothing that you can do in a certain situation, the best thing to do is to just pray, and let destiny unfold itself. It always does.
Calming Bible Verse 3:Philippians 4:13
I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me.
If we keep our faith alive, nothing can hold us back. We can achieve everything if we believe. Do not let stress and anxiety, fears and uncertainty bring you down, keep calm and just trust in His plan.
This calming bible verse clearly states that we can put all our stress and anxiety, our fears on God and he will take care of us because that is how much he loves us. Imagine a technology where you can just transfer all your fears and frustrations and be free of them. We are in 2020, who knows, in future inventors can come up with a gadget like that but for now, consider the Bible to be that technology. Just make believe if you are not quite there.
Calming Bible Verse 5: Matthew 6:25
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what
you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food,
and the body more than clothing?
Simply put, this calming bible verse means that one should not worry about material things. Perhaps food and clothing is a bit of a stretch, but this actually implies material things are not worth our peace of mind.
Calming Bible Verse 6: Matthew 6:26
Look at the birds of the air: they neither
sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly
Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?
Again, this calming bible verse reminds us that every creature big or small is taken care of by God, they might not have the ability to think, work or worry but they are still taken care of. Just like that, we should rest assured that we will be looked after, regardless of what we do.
Calming Bible Verse 7: Matthew 6:27
And which of you by being anxious can
add a single hour to his span of life?
Being anxious does not get us anything or anywhere. We are wasting precious moments worrying about the future, fearing things that might never even happen.
Calming Bible Verse 8: Matthew 6:30
But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is
thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?
If God takes care of the grass, which is plucked and used up by human beings for food, will he not take care of us. Have some faith that you will be fine. Stress and anxiety will not benefit anybody.
Calming Bible Verse 9: Matthew 6:31-33
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’
or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’
For the Gentiles seek after all these things,
and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness,
and all these things will be added to you.
God knows that food, water, sleep are all essential to life. However, we need to first seek God and believe in his word and all our needs will be taken care of. There is a sense of calm in leaving it all to fate.
Calming Bible Verse 10: Matthew 6:34
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
This calming bible verse says not to worry about the future, it will come sooner or later, and we can worry about it when it does. It is futile to worry about events that have not even taken place. Just pray and believe.
Calming Bible Verse 11: 2 Corinthians 12:10
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
We learn and grow more from unpleasant experiences. This calming bible verse encourages the reader to not feel despair when going through a tough time. Stress and anxiety are a part of life, just like we accept strength, we must embrace weakness because it is only when we experience weakness, that we learn from it. It is this learning that empowers us and makes us strong from within.
Calming Bible Verse 12: John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
This calming bible verse specifies that God shall give you peace, the world might provide you with calmness and peace, but this is temporary, it is only God who can provide you with eternal peace, peace that lasts and is like no feeling of calmness that the world can ever give. This calming bible phrase invokes a feeling of calm, a feeling of hope and a feeling of assurance that we are not alone.
Calming Bible Verse 13: Psalm 34:4
I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.
The main reason for stress and anxiety is fear. It is fear of the unknown, fear of the uncertainty of what is to come, fear for our future, most of anxiety is based on events that have not even occurred and yet we lose our sleep over it. Abandoning this fear can free us of all this pent-up anxiety and stress.
Looking to God and his scriptures can help free us from this fear. Imagine a life where we feel no fear. It is a life of utter peace, joy, and calming energy. This calming verse lets its readers know that God can help us get rid of our fears, and thus our anxiety.
Calming Bible Verse 14: Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous.
In times of uncertainty, chaos, and stress, we humans are at our weakest, we are faced with this overwhelming feeling of despair, and hopelessness. Reading this calming bible verse can help uplift us when we need an extra boost of positive, calming energy.
Calming Bible Verse 15: Psalm 94:19
In the multitude of my thoughts within me your comforts delight my soul.
Multitude of thoughts is referencing to anxiety, the chaos within our minds, the constant worry about the past, the present and the future. This calming bible verse implies that it is only God and His scriptures that can calm an aching heart. It is through these calming bible verses that we can find peace of mind and comfort.
There are several verses in the Bible that are dedicated to calming the soul and peace of mind. Stress and anxiety are a given, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot completely escape it. However, reading these calming bible verses helps ease the mind. There is freedom in believing, there is calmness in having faith.
I have and do sometimes feel anxious, stress is no stranger to me, and reading these verses and interpreting them has brought a smile to my face. It is the smile of peace, of faith, a feeling of peace of mind. The belief that I do not need to have an answer for everything, future will eventually unfold, destiny will reveal itself, with or without me worrying about it.
Marilyn Monroe is one of the most famous names even today, it has been fifty years since Marilyn died and her life, her death, her quotes are still remembered and talked about. Marilyn Monroe was a style icon in the 50s. She was a famous American actress, model and a comedian who became a sex symbol through her bold roles in movies.
There are so many celebrities who have come and gone but there are very few that have left such an impact that their lives are discussed almost 60 years after it’s ended.
Marilyn Monroe – What makes her so Memorable?
1. A Difficult Childhood
The first thing that makes Marilyn Monroe stand apart is the fact that she overcame a difficult childhood. Her father was absent, her mother was a Schizophrenic, which led to young Marilyn being moved in and out of foster care.
It was a wonder how a woman in the 50s with such a tragic history could not only survive but make such a name and career for herself. Her PR team exploited her tragic childhood to bring in more press for the actress during her initial fame.
2. The way Marilyn Monroe Looked
Her Appearance is widely talked about even today, Marilyn Monroe might not have been born “beautiful” by Hollywood standards, but she grew into it. Marilyn Monroe worked hard on her looks, her makeup skills were way ahead of her time – She was one of the first to popularize the winged eyeliner to make her eyes look wider.
She layered her lipstick to make her lips look poutier. She bleached her brown hair for that blonde hair, which was probably one of the most striking features about her, that including the big blue eyes.
Marylin Monroe did not leave any stone unturned when it came to her physical appeal, she went under the knife and got several surgeries done to change her physical features. A move that her agent convinced her to take, he also paid for the surgeries.
3. Her very Public Relationships
The third thing that sets her apart from the rest and highly responsible for her popularity were her relationships. She was married three times and had several famous partners throughout her life. Some famous names include Marlon Brando, Frank Sinatra, Joe DiMaggio.
4. There was something Mysterious about Marilyn Monroe
The fourth thing that adds more of an appeal to her persona was the mystery. Despite the bold roles she played, there was a mystery about her. Her beautiful smile never hid the deep sadness behind her eyes. Nobody knew who she really was off camera and that is something that adds to her great appeal, so many years after she died. Her mystery and intrigue are clear through some of her quotes and sayings.
5. She Died Young at the age of 36
The fifth reason why she still has such an influence in the world is because she died young. Her tragic life ending the way it did and created more of an enigma around her mystique. People wanted to know every thing they could about her life and death.
6. Marilyn Monroe was Wise
She might have played the ditsy blonde very well, but there is no doubt that she was wiser than her years. The ditsy little bold but poor girl act is part of her fame, and she played that part really well, but her interviews, her diaries, the way she answered the questions asked, shows how incredibly smart and insightful Marilyn truly was. She is still quoted, and her quotes and sayings continue to inspire generations to come.
Here is a list of some of Marilyn Monroe Quotes and Sayings & what we can Learn from them:
“No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they’re pretty, even if they aren’t.”
They should also be told that they are talented, smart, creative, funny, interesting, capable, strong, kind and amazing. Law of attraction is real, if you hear it, you believe it, and if you believe it, you become it.
“If there is only one thing in my life that I am proud of, it’s that I’ve never been a kept woman.”
We must remember that this was said over 6 decades ago, when being a “kept woman” was not only accepted but also applauded. Like I said, she was way beyond her years.
“Keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”
Considering how tragic her life was, starting from the day she was born up until her fame, her depression, mental health, these words hit you hard. Her optimism hits you hard and it is something we can all learn from.
“We should all start to live before we get too old.”
Marilyn never got to be old, as she died at 36, but she lived a lot in those 36 years.
“I am trying to find myself. Sometimes that’s not easy.”
It is never easy. It is endless, it can take years and sometimes we never find ourselves, but the aim is to continue trying. I recommend trying many things, doing a lot of new things that we find interesting, entertaining, satisfying, true to us and we might one day find ourselves. The secret is in not giving up.
“If I’d observed all the rules, I’d never got anywhere.”
Also, if we remember when this was spoken, these words are truly groundbreaking. While I believe sometimes rules help us, and help make our lives easier, but yes .. sometimes it is okay to break some of these rules. When it comes to living a life that is true to yourself, break those rules.
“Dreaming about being an actress is more exciting than being one.”
It is more about the journey than the destination. It is about the experiences. The little droplets of life that we live in those moments that resonate with us throughout life. Too deep?
“I don’t want to make money. I just want to be wonderful.”
And she was wonderful, she made money doing what she wanted, what she loved, isn’t that the dream?
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best.”
This is probably one of Marilyn Monroe’s most quoted quotes. Why? Because it resonates with most of us. We all have our moments, when we are our worst selves, but isn’t that just human nature? It is not natural to be our best selves all the time.
“I restore myself when I’m alone.”
I love this quote because this is me. I say it all the time. You need your alone time – from your kids, from your friends, from your partner, from yourselves too sometimes. In which case, meditate. But for the love of yourself, spend at least an hour by yourself every day. An hour of doing nothing, ironically increases productivity. Here is a post I wrote about this topic.
“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up.”
Never run after perfection, it is okay to be imperfect if as long as you are getting things done. As long as you are moving ahead. As long as you have the ability to think for yourself. Make mistakes, celebrate failures as much as successes. it just means you tried.
“A girl doesn’t need anyone that doesn’t need her.”
And don’t you ever forget that. Wanting someone is different, the moment you start needing them, you absolutely need to get out. This is what a co-dependent relationship looks like.
To Wrap Up
Marilyn Monroe was inspiring, beautiful, interesting, and sensational. To me the best thing about her is the fact that, though she was far from perfect, she was truly herself. She was fearless, and it was this fearlessness that latches on to people; those of us that were not even alive back when she died. She continues to live on through her famous quotes and sayings.
Every now and then you feel so tired that you just wish to get in bed and sleep for ten hours, however, things don’t exactly pan out as you had hoped. You get in bed and one after the other every troubling thought starts entering your mind. Before you know it, its 2 am and you’re wide awake, and not in the good Katy Perry way.
So here are 15 things you can do that can help you get that good night’s sleep:
Circadian Rhythm – why should we Sleep and Wake up at the same time?
This is good for our circadian rhythm. Promotes better health, better sleep and better mental health.
2. No Food or Sugary Drinks
I am no stranger to those sugar cravings before bed, but sleep therapists suggest to refrain from eating or drinking before going to bed. If you must have some drink, go for unsweetened green tea or chamomile tea, peppermint works pretty well too. It helps calm those nerves when you’re stressed out.
3. Treat Your Bed Room like a Bed Room
Our bed room is called a BED room for a reason. The main ingredient being a bed. A bed that is meant to be slept in. However, our busy lives have turned our bed rooms into a dining room, a TV lounge and even an office.
As a result we start associating our bed rooms with all of these activities. “I can’t sleep so lets get on the laptop and get a little work done”, yes? NO! This adds to the stress and we don’t need more of that when we are already stressed out.
4. No Screens / No Tech in Bed
Now this one might pinch, but it’s true. The light from our screens, even when our devices are set to “dark mode”, act like dementors, except, it doesn’t suck the life out of us, it sucks the sleep out of us. It tricks the brain into thinking it’s day time and causes us to overthink and under sleep.
5. No Naps during the day
While some people are experts at power napping, most people I know are not. You might think you’re going to rest your eyes for 10 minutes, the next thing you know it’s 6pm and dinner isn’t ready yet. It is advisable to keep the sleep limited to night time.
6. Create a Comfortable Environment
Get those snuggly pillows, a nice cotton bed spread, scented candles (careful with the fire though). When stressed out, our inner self is already in chaos, balance this out by creating a calm, peaceful and a comfortable external environment, this will help quiet your stressed out mind.
7. Slow, Soft, Peaceful Music
Many people, including myself, swear by music. Feeling low? Listen to Chill out happy music, some people prefer sad, love songs to feel better. Hey, whatever works for you, we don’t judge here in this Classy Clan Community.
Busy brain? aka, stressed out, soft, slow, calming music helps soothe the overworked mind, and puts your brain at rest, thus rendering a good night’s sleep. Sounds of the rain act equally well, and you don’t need to be in the middle of the monsoons to get this. Rain sounds, or nature sounds on youtube act just the same. Remember to put the phone away when you try this technique.
8. Calming Colors for the Bed Room
There are calming colors, and there are stimulating colors, while there is no good or bad color, it is advisable not to paint your bed room walls a red, or a bright coral, keeping the bed room color theme, a cool, neutral or a pastel shade will help you keep your stressed out mind a bit calmer, while creating a more peaceful exterior environment that promotes better sleep.
To find out, what colors are considered “calming colors” – Click here
9. Do not Leave Chores for the Next Day
While you don’t have to do everything today, if there is a task that can be done in ten minutes, finishing it before getting to bed will help you not stress about it. People seem to think it’s always the bigger problems that stress us out, but the truth is, stress is caused by overthinking and this over thinking can be about anything ranging from losing a job to forgetting to wash your plate after dinner. It will take two minutes to wash that plate, and you can sleep without stressing about it.
10. Relaxation Techniques
There are several known ways that help induce sleep. What do they have in common? All these techniques are aimed at reducing stress. For more ways on achieving peace of mind, click here.
Here are a few simple techniques that can be incorporated into our pre-sleep ritual:
Sleep Meditation: You don’t need to be sitting for this, just close your eyes, put on some meditation music and concentrate on that. Works like a charm
Deep Breathing: Take a deep breath in, hold it for a count of ten and breath out. Nice and slow.
Read a book: Might not be a technique, but works like magic.
11. Do not go to bed Angry
Upset with someone? Worried about something, angry at your friend? Something they said that you didn’t appreciate. Three simple words – Talk It Out. If you can’t talk to the person directly related, call up a friend and vent out. A good rant is often underestimated. Talking about our problems, helps us move on. It is good for your stressed out brain, and good for sleep.
12. A warm Bath before bed
Bath salts, Bubble baths, Bath Bombs, or simply just a relaxing warm bath works equally well. Just fill up that bath tub, get in, close your eyes and relax. I feel relaxed just talking about it. It is the best thing you can do to relax your stressed out mind, body and soul.
13. Set aside a Thinking-Time for yourself
By setting a separate thinking time in your daily routine, you can avoid thinking about those things when it’s time to sleep. This is recommended by sleep therapists and is worth a shot. For example, 9pm to 10pm is thinking time and that is when you allow yourself to think about everything that has been bothering you that day or week. Making a conscious effort to do this every day, not only helps sleep better at night, over time you won’t need a thinking time at all, as a result of feeling less stressed out every passing day.
14. Come up with a Night Routine that Works for you
This could range from putting on a beauty face mask, singing lullabies, oiling your hair, scented candles, moisturizing (Bath and Body Works Warm Vanilla Moisturizer is pretty amazing). De-stressing does not have to be complicated, simple things work incredibly well, and are easier to incorporate into our daily lives.
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15. Seek Professional Help
Last but not Least, If nothing seems to work and you’re still stressed out, feeling anxious and just can’t fall asleep, do not hesitate to seek professional help. There are experts out there that can help and it is advisable not to take lack of sleep lightly.
Stress and Sleep go hand in hand, and usually have an inverse relationship. The higher the stress, the more negatively it impacts our sleep. Sleeping more than we should is also not a good sign. Good sleep is about sleeping an appropriate amount of time, and a good quality of sleep as well. Sleeping for fifteen hours, waking up every two hours, or not being able to sleep at night might all be indicators of a sleep disorder and should not be taken lightly. Try these simple ways to help you destress and promote better sleep into your life. You deserve it!
Happiness is a state of mind, and we cannot be in that state forever. But Peace? We can train our mind to be in a state of peace. It might seem like a far fetched idea but hear me out! We can teach ourselves to be at peace, lets get right into it.
How to Make our Mind peaceful – 9 Ways
1. Spend some time by yourself everyday for peace of mind:
This is one that I have been practicing for years and I would say, nothing has helped me more in my journey towards peace. The world is a beautiful place, with beautiful people, and there is no shame in admiting and accepting that every now and then, we need to spend some time away from those beautiful people. Simply because it is crucial for our own peace of mind.
We are social animals but even animals step away from their animal buddies every now and then to explore themselves. Start with an hour, just that one hour of alone time, either in the morning before others wake up, or at night after everyone’s asleep.
Just take that one hour to unwind and do whatever it is that you enjoy. Here are a few simple ideas:
Read a book
Watch a movie
Make a cup of coffee/tea, drink slowly with a cookie (never underestimate the power of a warm beverage)
Listen to music – any kind that sets you free (for me it’s my 90’s jam that always takes me back to the “good ol days”
Take a walk – Also good for the body so bonus points for that
2. Spend some time in Nature for peace of mind
Nature, when it isn’t unveiling its wrath upon us, is truly bliss. It epitomizes peace. Go for a hike in the mountains, no mountains around? Take a stroll in the park, watch a sunset, wake up early and relish the sunrise. Listen to the flowing river, watch a water fall, listen to the sound of the rain. Smell the divine mud right after a rain (We need a mud scented perfume already). Smell a flower, watch the leaves moving as a gentle breeze gushes over a tree, Listen to the birds chirping.
Tip: I leave a large bowl of water in my garden. Watching those beautiful winged creatures drinking from it is truly calming and so satisfying.
3. Practice Non-Judgement for peace of mind
By judging others, we bring chaos into our own lives. Judging people might have become habit by now and this one will definitely take more practice. However, I have realized that just by being aware of it, we can prevent it. If not completely, we can certainly judge lesser than before. Notice yourself judging someone, that might be the first thought, don’t let it be the last one. Awareness is key. Once we know that we are judging someone, we can take the necessary steps to stop. Think of a positive thought and roll with it. Soon, it leads to internal peace.
4. Agree to Disagree for peace of mind
In simple words, resist the urge to argue. Some people just want to win a debate, but here’s the secret that they don’t know – Life isn’t a debate. Our friends and family are not debators. More often, people who think they have won an argument, are missing out on something extremely important than winning an argument – PEACE.
Sometimes they might even know how ridiculous they sound, sometimes they know they’re wrong but ego won’t allow them to stop. Speak your peace in a civil manner (you don’t want to lose sleep wishing you had voiced your opinion) and step back. Let them think they won .. it won’t affect your peace of mind. Actually, it will affect your peace of mind, by increasing it ten fold.
5. Art of Giving for peace of mind
We must be willing to give what we seek. Every relationsip is that of give and take. What goes out, must come back, it is truly in giving that we receive. However, lets not give with the sole purpose of receiving. We must give with the intention of creating happiness, not just for the person we are giving but also for ourselves. There are few things that bring you more internal peace than helping someone in need.
6. Learn something new for peace of mind
We get so caught up in our day to day lives that we have stopped trying new things. I know people who prefer going to the same restaurant and order the same meal every time. However, here I’m not talking about trying something new. I am talking about learning some thing new.
Learn a new skill, a new song, a new musical instrument, learn how to play the piano, learn a new language, learn a new recipe, learn how to bake, learn how to dance. Learning a new skill stimulates the brain, it is good for the spirit and what’s good for the spirit, is always good for our peace of mind.
7. Surround yourself with Positive People for peace of mind
I don’t mean, stop talking to friends everytime they are stressed out. None of us will have friends left if we live like that. Ever watched someone laugh and started laughing yourself, without even knowing why they’re laughing? That’s the power of positivity! Positive people are highly contagious. Be a part of that and notice yourself feel lighter, calmer, happier. It’s amazing!
8. Color Blue for peace of mind
I did a whole post dedicated to calming colors that bring peace of mind. Blue is one of the most calming colors on the planet. Feeling anxious lately? Wear sky blue, Paint your walls light blue, Blue curtains, blue bed sheet..you get the picture. Not a big fan of blue? Here is a list of 9 Calming Colors – Psychologically tested colors that can calm your mind and reduce the internal chaos.
9. Relaxation Technique for peace of mind
This is going to be different for everybody. Maybe it’s meditation for some, yoga for others, maybe dancing to a silly hip hop song relaxes you. Swimming always calms me down. Listening to the sound of rain on an app is calming too, especially when you can’t sleep at night. Something so relaxing about it, it will put your mind at ease.
Peace of mind is not something that can be achieved overnight, as Robert Puff states –
“Over time, the peace of mind we’re searching for will emerge like the lotus flower from the murky waters below.”
Internal peace needs to be cultivated, and as we include more of these practices into our lives, slowly but steadily the more peaceful we will feel within ourselves, even if our external surroundings are full of chaos.
Calming Colors for Stress and Anxiety – Color Psychology
Color Psychology is the study of colors, and different shades of colors to find out how they affect human behavior. Color Psychology helps us understand how our emotions, choices, moods, and behavior can be influenced by the colors surrounding us. It has been established and accepted that colors influence us on a deeper level than we might think.
Therefore, Marketers spend millions of dollars on research on Color Psychology to determine the packaging of their products and what colors to paint the stores in order to impact buying behavior.
However, we are not going to discuss ways Color Psychology can help businesses make profits, we are going to discuss calming colors and how certain colors can bring us peace of mind.
Here is a list of 9 calming colors to reduce your stress and anxiety, just keep in mind, the cooler the shade of the color, the more calming it is. The warmer, bolder, or louder the shade, the more stimulating it is.
Stimulation is not a bad thing, it stands for excitement, and activity within the brain, but here we are talking about calming colors. Colors that reduce this activity or chaos in the brain and bring peace of mind by reducing this stimulation that sometimes causes stress and anxiety.
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9 Calming Colors for Peace of Mind
Calming Color 1 – Blue
“Blue is the color of peace. Water is blue. I like the color blue because it just puts me at peace. The patriotic symbol is blue. I just like blue.” – Antonio Brown
Blue is the most common favorite color amongst men and women in the world. It seems like nature has been predesigned to bring us calmness. Colors found in nature are mostly associated with calming us down.
Looks like the Creator has us covered. Research found that blue streetlights seem to reduce crimes and suicides, which is why some areas in Japan switched to Blue night lights in streets. The color also helps reduce blood pressure. The color of the sky is one of the most calming colors there is. Blue has several shades within it, so think of more cool tone blues when you want to reducestress and anxiety, Click here for the top reasons for stress in the United States.
Calming Color 2 – Green
“Nature in her green, tranquil woods heals and soothes all afflictions.” – John Muir
In keeping with the nature, green is another soothing, calming color, that symbolizes growth, peace, and abundance. It is often called the color of life, the color of God and the color of peace. Green helps people feel well rested, that is where the concept of the “Green room” came into existence.
Same as blue, green too has several shades, some are more stimulating, while others are cooler toned, think of the trees, the grass, the leaves. The closer you are to the beautiful shades of green in nature, the more it will help reduce stress and anxiety. This calming color is also associated with God.
Calming Color 3 – Gray
“The color of truth is gray.” – Andre Gide
Gray is another calming color, it soothes the soul, and has a cooling feel about it. The right shade of gray can bring peace of mind to an exhausted soul. It is a popular color for many happy homes, the dentist’s clinic, and courtrooms. It would be best not to over stimulate a patient who is already facing stress and anxiety about getting a root canal. Ouch!
Calming Color 4 – Purple/Lilac
“Lavender – the Color and Scent of Relaxation, Youthfulness, Creativity, Imagination, Optimism”
This beautiful color not only looks amazing, but it also has relaxing properties. Purple is associated with prestige, royalty, power, elegance, and sophistication.
Cool shades of purple can evoke creativity and relaxation, which is why several spas and lounges have included this color in their layout. It affects the mind like gray does by alleviating stress and anxiety, only it feels more youthful and classier.
Calming Color 5 – Pink
“And her pink skies will keep me warm.” – Frank Ocean
Psychologists believe pink to promote peace, it balances energies and soothes those around it. Pink is often symbolic of being girly, cute, romantic, and playful, and now we can also add peaceful to the list. Think Pink, think Peace.
Calming Color 6 – White
“I call white the most powerful non-color; it’s clean, optimistic, powerful.” – Jason Wu
Probably the purest color on the spectrum, white symbolizes cleanliness, serenity, purity, creativity, new beginnings. Surrounding ourselves with this calming color brings peace of mind, it de-stresses our overworked mind and encourages relaxation.
Calming Color 7 – Brown / Tan
We connect brown to coffee, to warm spices like cinnamon and nutmeg, and with golden, sun-kissed skin. Brown is hearth and home, and it’s the color of our roots and of history – sensationalcolor.com
Another color brought to us by nature. The color of the trees, the roots, the mud. That scent right after lovely rain shower, its wet mud and it is delightful. Brown is often overlooked, but a cool tone brown is one of the most calming colors. It is soothing to look at and helps reduce stress and anxiety.
Yellow and a calming color? Color psychology says “YES”. This one might surprise a lot of you but not many colors spark a feeling of joy like yellow does. It is vibrant, bright, and brings with it sunshine – The feeling of hope, optimism, cleansing.
For a calmer effect, I would recommend a cool tone yellow. Think more pastels, yellow tends to be more warm than cool, so pick more natural hues, shades that are more pleasing than blinding will result in reduction of stress and anxiety.
Calming Color 9 – Silver
Silver affects the mind and body as a conductor and communicator that aids in public speaking and eloquence. Silver is believed to draw negative energy out of the body and replace it with positive energy – Bourncreative.com
Another beautiful calming color, silver is cooling, calming, soothing, relaxing, positive, and classy. The right amount glimmer, this color is not only luxurious but also creates a peaceful ambiance.
Calming Colors vs Stimulating Colors
Not a lot of research has been done on color psychology, but there is enough data to determine that colors affect our brain, our moods, our decisions, the way we behave and how we perceive the world. It is no surprise that certain colors bring us peace of mind, while other colors stimulate our brains.
There is no good or bad color, just depends on what we seek and what is the need of the hour. There are certain places that seek stimulation of the mind, for instance, when shopping at the mall, fast music and loud, stimulating colors help the brands make more profits. These stimulating colors impact the human mind in a way that they are tempted to buy more stuff.
Likewise, there are certain places that need to have calming colors because of the nature of work done there. For example, the doctor’s clinic, the court room; these places already evoke stress and anxiety in people, so the need of the hour is to make it as calming as possible. Using calming colors when thinking about the color scheme in these places is useful in the long run.
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